Sunday, August 19, 2007

declaring what I want, seeing and dreaming

people have told me that if I want to get married, I need to make a list of all the things I want in a husband. So I did. Now, let's just get this straight: I would like to get hitched, but I will not be marrying just some slob. I'd rather be single than settle for a life less than the one I expect for myself. And this is not a classified ad, I'm simply 'putting it out there' so God knows what he's working with.

So here he is, in a nutshell:
  1. smart & educated
  2. practical & resourceful
  3. ambitious & energetic
  4. kind/thoughtful/sensitive
  5. patient, peaceful and inspires peacefulness in those around him no matter what the circumstances he faces
  6. always willing to give love and affection, and never withholds
  7. does not use passive-aggressive "communication"
  8. slow to anger
  9. honest, good character and holds fast to his integrity
  10. my age or younger
  11. good looking & healthy
  12. enjoys life and has a sense of humour... and the big stuff:
  13. our life together is on a firm foundation of the word of God
  14. he encourages me and responds to my encouragement
  15. he is my partner and my co-pilot. I am not just along for his ride, sometimes he is the navigator on my journey.
  16. he never forgets that I am my own person with opinions, feelings and beliefs that come from an experience and life separate from him
  17. he shares a similar vision for life as me, we are going in the same direction

I really don't think that's too much to ask for, do you?


Jac said...

Hey... just so you know I'm still reading. I love the 'list' and am inspired to come up with my own. I'll work on that.

kristin said...

I haven't been writing for a while!!! I wrote that when I was on my camping trip, after talking to two happily married women about how their list worked.

Marieseda said...

That's quite the list!

I'm sure in 10 or 15 years when I'm ready to settle down, I'll make one similar to yours (or in other words just copy yours).

I don't think it's too much to ask as long as your willing to meet your own requirements.

I actually think I sound like the man your looking for, too bad I'm not a man.

Sj said...

As much as of course it is impossible to find someone who "Always" does anything, I have to know that you know that, and know therefore what you meant. And so, .. hell.. I found it. Why can't anyone else? ;)

kristin said...

josie and i theorize that there are more straight women available than there are straight men. but of course you're right sj, i'm probably too picky considering my age. as for marieseda, you were my inspiration for the description. it's no secret i wish you were a boy. ;)